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Sex Tips: Why Penis Size Does Matter

  • Written by  Gabriella Ferrari
This man just had his lover tell him his penis is too small. This man just had his lover tell him his penis is too small.

Dear Sex Tips: I’m a 27-year-old man concerned about the size of my [penis]. I know it sounds immature, but some women I’ve been with tell me bigger is better. What do women really think about size? Is there anything I can do to make mine bigger?”

---Worried, in Boulder, Colorado

Dear Worried: Many of us sometimes worry about our sex organs and sexual performance. Guys worry about penis size. Girls worry whether their vaginas look good, smell good, taste good, and feel good.

Genital worries are part of being in the mating game, and given the competitive nature of dating, mating and the sexual playing field, it’s not immature to wonder if your sexual equipment.

When it comes to the penis, size does matter.

In fact, the size and performance of your penis could be an indicator of your overall health.

As far as what girls want from a penis, some girls will say otherwise, but it’s not a sex myth that penis size matters. To put it bluntly, women want to feel filled up and stretched out during intercourse. They want that penis to fit tight and jam in strong. It activates the G-spot, and triggers deep orgasms that seem to start at the womb and work their way throughout the body!

The desire for a large, hard penis comes from evolutionary biology and sociobiology: survival of the fittest for a primate species (humans are primates) means that females should breed with the strongest, biggest, most sexually vigorous males.

This, along with other factors, ensures maximum genetic success in primate reproduction.

If a man has a small penis, it can mean a lot of things to a woman. Some of those things the girl’s vagina or brain perceives subconsciously, but she is sometimes aware of them as a vague dissatisfaction.

A small penis could mean the man is not naturally endowed with a large penis. Or that a man is not fully aroused. Or that he has had sex too many times in the recent past, and is worn out. Or that he has vascular issues that prevent optimum blood flow to the penis. Or that he has testosterone problems and is low in virility. Or all of the above!

None of those small penis problems are what the evolutionary survival-oriented brain and vagina of a female wants....

What she wants is big, rock-hard, long-lasting, fully-aroused. That’s not a social or cultural overlay: it’s hardwired into most primates, including us.

A girl also doesn’t want a guy whose penis is so long and wide, or whose sexual intercourse technique is so rough, that it hurts her when he thrusts in.

And there’s the factor of matching the size and safety needs of the male and female.

Some women’s vaginas are naturally larger, others have been stretched out due to childbearing or too much intercourse, others are too loose due to a lack of overall physical health and vaginal-area muscle tone.

The large-vagina women might need a larger than average penis. But for many of us women who have tight vaginas that are toned and strong, too large a penis actually hurts.

A girl can perceive that she's feeling the thing pushing through too much, and it’s not fun.

If a girl is giving you a blow job, and you thrust too hard or have too big a penis, you could damage her throat, or choke her. Not sexy!

On a psychological level, when you put your penis into a woman and she can’t hardly feel it’s in there, her mind is trying to figure it out. What’s going on, she’s asking herself.

The baseline is she’s not totally satisfied with that penis...she wants to feel that thing fully in there, especially if she’s a master masturbator and is used to filling herself up with a sex toy or her fingers.

The nerves and muscles that support the vagina are like a tensionometer that reports back to her if the male organ is big enough, tough enough and thrusting enough. If not, it’s a let-down.

Then the woman subconsciously or consciously starts to worry. Why isn’t he big enough? Is he not aroused? Am I not turning him on enough? Is it just the way his penis is? Is he having sex with other girls and all tired out by the time he gets to me? Is there some health problem he has? Is he gay?

Trust me, guys, we do ask ourselves those questions during sex if the penis isn’t big enough. It can cause some girls fake orgasms…the penis isn’t big enough to generate real friction and clitoral stimulation, the guy’s insertion technique is weak, and then your mind starts to wondering, and it takes you off the orgasm build-up track. So you fake it, just to not hurt the guy's feelings, or to get him off of you!

Girls do worry about those things when you’re not hard and big. It’s female human nature.

Of course, guys get it that size does matter, that performance matters, that staying hard until the woman has a lot of orgasms matters.

Guys fear premature ejaculation. They fear not being able to get it up, or keep it up. Not just older guys, but younger guys too. And with these fears we’ve seen the rise of Viagra, and before that we saw potions, penis weights, and exercises (usually sold to you in the back of comic books, Playboy, or Hustler) that allegedly would make you have a larger penis or a longer-lasting erection.

Sorry to break the news to all those slick penis-booster marketers who sell penis-boosting herbs. machinery, and exercises, but that stuff is junk. And in the case of some penis-enlarging potions, equipment or exercises, guys can damage themselves severely.

Yes, Viagra will make you erect and keep you erect if you’re already aroused, but it won’t make your penis bigger that it would normally be during arousal, and it has serious side effects.

Some desperate folks resort to penis-enlargement surgery, but this most often increases girth, not length, and as with most surgery, it can have really dangerous side effects and outcomes.

Worse yet, studies show that guys who’ve had the surgery say they aren’t seeing an increase in the pleasure they get from intercourse, or the pleasure their sex partners get either.

So what’s a guy to do? One safe way to possibly make your penis as large and as hard as possible for as long as possible is to get as physically fit as possible.

Anything healthy you can do to lose fat, gain cardiovascular strength, increase muscle ratio, decrease bodyfat ratio, quit smoking cigarettes, avoid alcohol and sedating drugs…the better chance your penis has of getting full-strength arousal signals from your brain, and a hefty amount of blood, so your penis works well and swells to its maximum size.

Another thing: stop masturbating. Let yourself build up a potent sexual charge, and rely on intercourse for your ejaculations, not your hand!

And while it’s overemphasized in magazines like Cosmopolitan and in men’s magazines, size isn’t absolutely everything...

Most females aren’t so large penis-addicted that your allegedly “small” penis is a complete, immediate dealbreaker in a sexual relationship or a love relationship.

There’s plenty you can do to give your woman massive, bed-shaking orgasms, even if you have a small penis, or even erectile dysfunction problems.

Of course you should learn to how to expertly give oral sex to a woman. Click on the link and you’ll see a hot article all about eating mankind’s favorite food.

You also use sex toys and fingers to stimulate her and give her orgasms so your penis is the icing on the cake, rather than her having to rely on your penis as the main menu.

And guys can study up on intercourse techniques and positions that maximize the angle effects and penetration vectors so a small penis can still do the job.

Another thing that helps is for the woman to use the penis as a living, attached vibrator or dildo. If she can’t get the sensation inside that she wants, she can sure have fun with it by taking it and rubbing it on her clit and labia.

Girls, you can help your man by being compassionate, creative and humane. Girls who’ve had small breasts or not-so-heavenly vaginas, or ugly faces, or are obese know what it’s like to worry about not being loved, desired…about being rejected because of one’s body features.

Well girls, when it comes to penis size, take that fear of rejection and multiply by a factor of a thousand. Because if a guy has a smaller than average penis, or he gets in bed with you and is unable to get it up and keep it up so you get vaginal orgasms during intercourse, he could feel embarrassed, sad, or seriously miserable.

Some maladjusted guys might get angry or defensive with you if you tell them their penis is too small. I’ve known girls who were beaten by a man for telling him he had a small penis. Watch out…some men are violent!

It’s a harsh world for men when it comes to penis size, and we women don’t need to make it even more cruel, nor do we want to risk getting beaten up.

I hope all men and women realize that the size and status of your genitals isn’t the only factor that determines whether you have great sex with lots of orgasms. Big penis, small penis, average penis or huge donkey dong penis, it’s what’s attached to the penis that counts. You could have the biggest penis in the world, or a regular-sized penis, or a small one. But if you’re a dick, girls are gonna run from you!

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