The good news is you are not alone. Many guys have trouble with relationships, so it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Trying to make women fall in love with you isn’t an exact science, but there are a few things you can do to help Cupid along.
Nothing will kill a relationship faster than dishonesty. Trying to act like someone you’re not is the worst form of dishonesty for two reasons. One – you’ll never be able to keep up the charade, so she’ll find out your true personality eventually; and two – it will ruin your reputation. Girls gossip, there’s no way around it. Do you really want her telling all her friends that you’re a fake? Save yourself the frustration and just be yourself. Women find honesty appealing, and they love a guy who knows exactly who he is. Wishy-washy men who haven’t “found themselves” are a big turn off, so if you’re not yet sure of who you really are, take some time to figure it out.
A woman wants to feel safe with her man. If you act shy, nervous, or unsure, that’s how she’ll feel as well. Be confident without being cocky. Be masculine without acting macho. Yes, it can be a very fine line – so you may need practice. You want your girl to feel like you’d stand up for her if necessary, but not that you’re so volatile you’ll start fights for no reason. Women will respond to your strength, but only if it’s balanced with tenderness. You’re her protector, but not her warden. You may have to watch a few chick flicks or read a couple romance novels to figure out the difference.
Being attentive involves a lot of different aspects of the relationship. When you’re with a girl, really be with her. Don’t think about the play-offs while she’s complaining about work. Look her in the eye when she’s talking so she knows you’re listening. Give her the attention she deserves – this will score major points. Remember important dates like anniversaries, and give thoughtful gifts. Be alert to her moods, and ask her what’s wrong when she seems down. If you’re not observant and conscious of her feelings, she’ll assume you don’t really care about her.
Women want to be wooed. They want to be swept off their feet, and given all the romance they’ve been waiting for their entire lives. You may think flowers and teddy bears are overrated, but she doesn’t. Even if the girl you like is a fiercely independent, women’s lib advocate – she still longs for romance. You just have to figure out what kind of things she’d appreciate. Take the time to learn everything you can about the woman you’re dating. If she casually mentions how much she likes poetry, take her to a poetry reading. Your girl loves horses? Arrange for a horse-drawn carriage ride around the park. Your romantic gestures will go a long way in making her fall for you.
Following these strategic tips will help you find your destination on the road to romance. There’s no hard and fast rule that guarantees she’ll fall for you right away, so you may need some practice. Remember, if at first you don’t succeed – try, and try again.
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Tuesday, 18 January 2011