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Is Being in Love the Ultimate Aphrodisiac for Hotter Sex?

  • Written by  Gabriella Ferrari
Being in love can be sexy! Being in love can be sexy!

 

Sex and love, do they really fit together so love makes sex even better?

It reminds me of this classic saying:

“Guys promise their love to a girl so they get sex from her; girls promise to give a guy sex, but what they really want is love.”

Some people accuse me of being a bad girl because I provide advice for enhancing sex as a recreational activity, rather than putting sex in the context of a “full-time committed loving relationship.”

When love and sex get together, it can make sex better…

But when I talk to a lot of my guy friends, they say love and relationships interfere with hot sex.

For them, the best sex you ever have is with a new partner, with someone who won’t share the rest of your life with you, who’ll be gone tomorrow.

That way, they say, you can focus on sexual pleasure without having to worry about the kids, bills, relationship friction, and in-laws after the sex session is over.

When you share nothing but your bodies and orgasms, it seems simpler. When you have a spouse, the sex gets complicated by the other aspects of the relationship. I get that.

For women, sex without love can be wildly orgasmic and simple. Sampling different guys sexually, just “havin’ fun,” being what used to be called “promiscuous.”

And there’s always the Friends With Benefits (FWB) option, in which you have friends who you believe will never be long-term life partners; you have sex with them without it meaning much, but at least you’re getting laid.

Love: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac

One thing for sure: being in love can be a potent aphrodisiac that lifts your enjoyment of life to a much higher level.

When you’re so into another person that you think about them all the time, you’re walking in the clouds with a smile on your face for the whole human race, when your heart pounds and your break into a sweat just thinking of someone, when sex, love, and lust get all mixed in together to create epic moments so sex becomes lovemaking, rather than just a naked, casual sport.

Suddenly, one person is your whole world, and it feels soooo right.

Love and Sex: A Potent Orgasm Booster

In love, your sexual adventures are part of the larger adventure of relationship. It’s not just being in bed pounding away with genital connection, it’s holding hands at the park, making food together, building a partnership, looking towards a future that involves marriage and perhaps children.

This all follows the course set for us by Mother Nature herself. When you’re in love, your body and mind create chemical messengers that actually alter your heart muscle to make you feel it right there in your chest.

Those same “I’m so in love” feelings elevate your mood, make you focus more intensely on your lover, and can lead to jealousy and possessiveness.

When a woman senses that a man is in love with her- not just in lust but actually in love- it makes her more sexually relaxed because she can have more confidence that if sex led to procreation, the man might actually hang around and do his duty.

The few times I’ve been in love, I’ve noticed that my orgasms are more profound and “real.” I am with someone I trust and know, so I can be more vulnerable, more eager, and more expressive.

When a man sees that a woman is in love with him, it might make him very happy or it might scare him a little if he’s afraid of commitment.

Love is a talent and a skill, and it takes a lot of effort and smarts to do it right, kind of like what we see in this Lil Wayne video…

And because being in love tends to jump you onto the love train—a train that heads down the tracks towards promises, loving friendship, marriage and children - you feel differently about sex, because it’s part of a larger relationship.

It’s not just having the hots for each other’s bodies, not that there’s anything wrong with that.

It’s making love, and looking forward to maybe even spending lives together, so sexual life is grounded in a larger, stabilizing vision for your future.

But hey, if love doesn’t sound hot and sexy to you, just try it. It makes sex more satisfying, and opens up better communication so you learn more about your partner.

Ok, sure, some of you are reading this and thinking: Hold on there, Gabriella, I love being single, the last thing I want is all the mess and potential heartache of being in love.  I just want to play and have fun. Who needs love?

Good question. A woman much more talented than me once asked, “What’s love got to do with it?”

In my experience, love is the ultimate aphrodisiac. When you’re in love, the sex is better, just like everything else is. Love is a natural high!

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