Hide this

header-filter-hotstuff

Sex Advice: Why Do So Many Women Fake Orgasms?!?

  • Written by  Gabriella Ferrari
Is her orgasm real, or is she faking it? Is her orgasm real, or is she faking it?

Dear Gabriella:

Thanks for all the great information and I am really hoping you can help me with this question, it’s something a lot of my friends wonder, why do women fake orgasms? Is it that hard for women to get off and what if anything can I do to help a woman who is not having the most orgasms or any at all. It makes me feel bad for them and if it’s my fault (I don’t think it is) I want to do better so she’ll cum more.

Justin, from Toronto, Canada

Dear Justin:

Orgasms are the most intense pleasure a human can experience…we all get that.

Orgasms are intense pleasure, but some women are faking them.

There’s sex, drugs and rock n’ roll, and of all of the pleasures on earth, sexual pleasure is the most fun and sought after. People live and die for it.

You’d be surprised to know that almost all women fake orgasms at one time or another. Some of us are faking them almost all the time. So what does this mean for you as a guy, and why are we doing that?

Orgasms are not an automatic thing for men or women. Lots of problems interfere with the complex process that combines nerve sensations, physical responses and psychological readiness into a big physiological event that produces orgasm.

Some women have psychological problems that block their mental and emotional connection to their body. They’re in bed physically, but mentally they’re not really in bed with you.

They’re somewhere else, lost in their thoughts.

You could skillfully lick their clit, finger them or have loving intercourse with them for hours…they’re still not going to get that orgasm. They’re blocked.

This is a problem that often requires sex counseling, although sometimes you can help a woman become orgasmic if you work with her to help her get more into her body and get more integration between her vagina and her mind.

Many women fail to cum because they’re just not that into you. They’re not aroused by your body, personality or sexual technique.

They’re “having sex” with you, but not really turned on enough to cum. You just don’t do it for them.

For us girls, there’s a definite psychological or even “spiritual” component to orgasms. For women sex is an “opening up,” a lot of vulnerability. She opens her legs and allows a man to look inside her body, taste her, smell her, stick things in her. It’s really kind of like an “invasion.”

It takes lots of trust and self-confidence to be that open and vulnerable. A girl has to be totally ok with the fact that someone else is doing things inside you and seeing your most private parts. If a woman is not really into being open like that, she’s not primed for orgasms. She’s too nervous and shy.

Women fake orgasms because they’re trying to please the man or at least get him to think he’s “done his job” so they can get him to stop what he’s doing. It’s a way of saying, “Ok, I am bored with this, let’s move on."

Prostitutes, escorts, live video porn and video movie porn girls, strip club girls and other girls in the sex trade fake orgasms as part of their job. It’s all part of the act.

A woman who is non-orgasmic may feel ashamed and defective. Like a car that won’t start, she’s worried about her clit, vagina, and mind…about why she can’t cum.

Women know that men are into sexual performance, so they fake orgasms to build your ego and confidence.

Of course, if you suspect your woman has been faking you out, it makes you feel bad.

You wonder, if she can fake me out on something so intimate, what else is she being fake about? The answer in some cases is: she’s deceptive and kind of dishonest, and you may need to get away from her, unless you want to get hurt and ripped off.

How can you tell if a woman is having a real orgasm versus a fake orgasm? First of all, her vagina will tighten spasmodically if she’s getting close to orgasm or having one.

Her toes will curl and her pelvis will move on its own in a rhythmic way that is very hard if not impossible to fake.

Her body will shake, and at the moment of orgasm, her vagina may clamp so hard that you can’t get your tongue, penis or fingers out.

Her heart will pound very hard and fast, she’ll pant, and her juices will flow inside of her vagina in a sudden gusher that sometimes drips out between her thighs.

If you’re going down on her and she’s having a real orgasm, you’ll sense it when she goes almost dangerously out of control in bucking her hips and grabbing your head to jam your tongue and face into her vagina.

If she’s on top of you either doing intercourse or sitting on your face, she’ll be like she’s riding a bucking bronco. Hold on boys, ‘cuz she’s coming hard!

You’re looking for indicators that she’s lost conscious control and is in the grips of a full-body orgasmic release.

Yeah, there are a few of us women who are silent, unmoving, robotic orgasm chicks. They lay there suppressing their feelings, trying not to show emotions, and very quietly have an orgasm with minimal body movement or vocalization.

It’s like the “poker face” that Lady Gaga and Cartman like to sing about.

Women faking orgasms rely on a porn star’s repertoire of deceptive tricks.

They make those “oooooh-ahhhhh” sounds that always sound so dumb in porn video. They roll their hips, and say nasty, stupid things they think you want to hear.

You can sense their lack of authenticity by comparing their sounds, words and body movements to what you’ve experienced if you’ve ever had a woman who really is orgasmic.

Dude, it’s great you’re concerned that your girlfriends, partner or wife aren’t having orgasms.

The simplest thing to do is just to respectfully and sensitively ask them if they’re getting off enough…if there’s anything you can do differently or better so they get more orgasms.

Of course, you guys can’t fake an ejaculation. That white stuff is either gonna come out or it’s not.

But if a girl is struggling to let go so she experiences the big O, that’s her territory. You can earn a girl’s devotion and gratefulness if you work with her to help her have more orgasms.

This means you pay attention to insider sex techniques I’ve explained in other articles, and you can bet that in future articles I will continue tell you as much as I can to help you learn how to work a woman’s clit, vagina and other body parts so she gets maximum pleasure from your sex efforts!

But yeah, I know girls who are in their 30’s and have never had orgasms, or they’ve only had orgasms with another woman, or while masturbating.

For girls, orgasms are not just about a horny “itch” that makes you want someone to lick, finger or thrust into your vagina…it’s often about trust, emotional connection, and confidence in her own body.

Justin, I hope you’ll be able to help any woman you’re with have the most numerous and most intense orgasms she can have. That’s a wonderful goal-- I wish more men cared about whether women are getting sexual pleasure.

Hoping for more orgasms for you and your partner,
Gabriella

© Copyright RosebudMag.com, 2012



To create link towards this article on your website,
copy and paste the text below in your page.




Preview :


Powered by Rosebudmag © 2014
Follow Rosebud Magazine on Twitter Check out the Rosebud Magazine Facebook
Share this article with your friends, family and co-workers
Last modified on Monday, 25 June 2012 17:44

Want To Grow Bigger?

 

Twitter-Button

Follow growers on Twitter

 

FacebookButtonJoin grower discussions on Facebook

 

email-icon-1Ask our expert growers questions at: experts@rosebudmag.com

Growers Underground
QuickCure
© Rosebud Magazine, 2010 - 2013 | All rights reserved.

Login or Register

LOG IN