Let’s face it; every guy wants a better sex life. Even if you have a fantastic time between the sheets, in the back of your mind you’re probably wondering if there are ways to make it even better. Rather than focusing on what would make it better for you – think about what would make it better for her.

You may have your own ideas about the best places to touch a woman to turn her on, but seduction often begins in the mind. Barry Komisaruk, PhD, coauthor of The Science of Orgasm, says “Even the pinnacle of sex, the orgasm, can be a cognitive process that’s separate from erotic or sexual context.” If you’ve been ignoring this part of the ritual, it’s time you started to pay attention.