You’ve got a beautiful naked woman in your bed. She’s smiling at you seductively while her hands smooth down the sheets beside her in invitation. You’ve waited for this night for months and it’s finally here...and you’re scared to death.

Let’s face it; every guy wants a better sex life. Even if you have a fantastic time between the sheets, in the back of your mind you’re probably wondering if there are ways to make it even better. Rather than focusing on what would make it better for you – think about what would make it better for her.

You may have your own ideas about the best places to touch a woman to turn her on, but seduction often begins in the mind. Barry Komisaruk, PhD, coauthor of The Science of Orgasm, says “Even the pinnacle of sex, the orgasm, can be a cognitive process that’s separate from erotic or sexual context.” If you’ve been ignoring this part of the ritual, it’s time you started to pay attention.

Women love it; men dread it. Of course this is a widely generalized statement and it has its exceptions. Many women like getting right down to business, and some men enjoy taking their time. But as an unspoken rule, foreplay is usually more important to women than men. Unfortunately for those men who disregard presex play, they are missing out on what very well may be the secret to better sex.